I am often asked when I speak about the work Neil and I have done in writing “Your Inner Salesman” about exactly how to deprogram the negative influences that push our friend The I.S. into the dark recesses of the psyche. I first always mention finding your fear and using the KGB Inspired exercise Neil reveals on page 34 of our book.

Beyond that though I also think we tend to make our lives to hard and what we know we just need to do to complicated. How do you deprogram? Start off with accepting that nothing limits you outside of yourself! You are not nor is any other human being a “victim” of your parents or school system. Much of the negative programming, “don’t talk to strangers”, “don’t play in the street”, “listen to the teacher no matter what she says” and the like were necessary to keep you both safe and successful to a degree in your childhood.

The problem is most parents, authority figures and life in general tends to go on an overkill in this programming. You are not forced to retain this negative conditioning in any way though and the first step in the process is to acknowledge that you absolutely can let go of these negative attachments at any time you choose to.

There are some things you can do to better understand how you got where you are today. A great one is to build a personal time line that chronicles the “coincidences” in your life that led you to where you are today. In reality if you think about it the odds that you would end up exactly where you are right now this second, ten years ago (much less 20) were probably 1,000,000 to 1 or even higher.

If you build a time line that describes who you met, what happened to you, etc that led to each major change in you life a true picture of why you see things they way you do will begin to form. With that in hand, releasing what ever holds you back is often a lot easier.

~ Jack Spirko